Toys aren’t just for kids. Toys are for adults too, if you know what I mean. As the interest in sexual accessories rise, women and men all over the internet are searching for their next favorite freaky toy. When deciding to pick the toys you’re going to use to spice up your sex life, you have to make sure you’re making the right decisions so you can feel good without worrying about safety, disappointment, and whether or not you made a good choice. When you go shopping for a new sex toy, you may not know where to start or what to focus on while shopping. At Hart’s Desires, we want you to always have the best sex accessories, so don’t worry we’ve got your back! I’m going to go over some of the materials that are the safest on the market and ones to stay away from.

First things first, there’s no bargain shopping when it comes to sex toys. You can bargain shop for a new pair of jeans or a new lamp for your living room, but skip the bargains when you’re looking for the next item to play with in the bedroom (or the car…). You get what you pay for when it comes to sex toys, so be sure to look for quality made items with safe components. Remember, this item is going INSIDE of your body or at least touching the most sensitive parts of your skin. Keep Ms. Kitty and Mr. Peen happy by making sure you are being safe and buying the best items, even if they end up a bit more expensive.

Don’t go burning your kitty up for a sale. I know it’s good to get a bargain, but not at the expense of a defective toy. If you find a dildo online for $10, you can best believe, it may have issues or there may be unsafe components. Now, I’m not saying you can’t find a great sex toy at a reasonable price because you can. However, I think it’s necessary to ask yourself a few questions first:
1. Do I trust this company?
2. Does the price reflect the quality?
3. Would I feel safe using this product on my sensitive body parts?
4. What reviews does this company have?
5. Does this product/company have credentials and safety measures in place to sell these items?

Only buy sex toys from places you are familiar with and you know they take pride in selling quality products. Many companies sell their sex toys accompanied with cleaning solutions and lubrications. One popular company is Fleshlight with their Super Skin line. It’s non-toxic and phalate-free. Fleshlight suggests only rinsing their products with water and not using any kind of soap on the sleeve. Every new toy comes with its own manufacturer’s suggestions. So, before you lube it up, stick it in, and get it in be sure to read the suggestions and learn as much as you can about your new toy. I’m giving you my first-hand account of the safest (and most unsafe) sex toys on the market.


There are some sex toys you should say no to and walk away from at all cost. Sex toys made of jelly, some PVCs, rubber, and latex should be avoided. Most of them contain phalates, which are chemicals that make these cheaper materials more flexible. They’re ultra-porous and potentially harmful. Bacteria love to hide out in the tiny pores of jelly and rubber toys, live their best lives, while ruining your sweet kitty or good peen! There’s no way to sterilize porous toys, and so they should be left on the shelf. These toys are also known for breaking down and melting. I remember having a jelly dildo that melted in my car when I accidently left it in the car. I don’t remember why I even had a dildo in the car, but it didn’t make it to my destination. LOL. If you have to use your jelly or rubber toy adding a condom will help, but it’s not foolproof from the toxic chemicals added to these toys or the possible bacteria living in them.


Silicone is my favorite. When I’m looking for new toys this is where I start. They are body safe, non-toxic, and medically non-porous. You can get all sorts of silicone toys from squishy dildos to ultra-firm vibrating bullets. You want to make sure you’re using a water based lube like Jo H2o with silicone toys. Silicone bonds with itself so using a silicone or hybrid lube will mess up your toy up and waste your money. At Hart’s Desires, we have a large variety of silicone options for you to try.
It’s Good to Know
Silicone is easy to clean because it’s non-porous; so hot water and mild soap will have you ready for the next round in no time. Toy cleaners like Sliquid Organic are great and boiling non-vibrating toys is a great way to sterilize your freaky fun accessories. If you don’t have time to boil water, put your freaky friend on the top shelf of the dishwasher, hit the button, and walk away. This is my favorite way to clean my sex toys—-and I don’t think twice about it. Judge your momma when it comes to the dishwasher and my dildos.

Metal toys are awesome too! Plus they’re shiny and sexy. The two most popular types are stainless steel and aluminum. They both are super durable, don’t change forms in high temperatures, and can be used with any type of lube, such as Uberlube silicone lube. My favorite stainless steel toys are from the Njoy’s line. I like using the Fun Wand for both G-spot stimulation and anal fun. Since, it’s non-porous, I don’t have to worry about bacteria hiding anywhere. UTIs are not fun! Our metal sex toys at Hart’s Desires are to scream for (you see what I did for…), so you can find something you like for sure.
It’s Good to Know
Simply use hot water and mild soap, boil to sterilize, or use a toy cleaner to clean these smoking guns, and you’re ready to go.


Glass is a perfect material for sex toys because it’s also non-porous and non-toxic. I love using glass dildos for temperature play. Running them under hot water or sitting them in the freezer for a second can change the whole game up! You can use glass toys with any type of lube you want. Just make sure to inspect them periodically for cracks and chips. We have a few glass sex toy options in the store and online.
It’s Good to Know
Glass toys are super easy to clean and can be sterilized with a 10% bleach solution, so you won’t be getting any leftover juices on your ice tray. LOL.

ABS Plastic
Another common safe sex toy material is ABS hard plastic. Hard plastic toys are non-toxic and non-porous and can be used with any type of lubricant. If you’ve heard of the popular Jack Rabbit vibrators, those are good examples of hard plastic toys. These are pretty common at Hart’s Desires, so there isn’t a shortage of options… (well, we have long ones and short ones, you can choose).

It’s Good to Know
ABS Hard Plastic can’t be boiled so make sure you clean these with a good toy cleaner.

Now, let’s talk about thermoplastic rubber and thermoplastic elastomer sex toys. These are not the safest of all sex toys, but they are better than rubber and jelly ones. They are still body safe and non-toxic, but they are porous. Porous materials means are harder to clean and could possibly harbor bacteria. They can’t be sterilized, but they can be cleaned with regular soap and water or a good toy
cleaner like Jo Rephresh. I suggest using a water-based lube with these materials like Sliquid H2O.

Now, do you feel like you can go out into the sex toy world with confidence? Great!
If you have any other questions please leave them in the comments.

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